Meet Annie
It’s been a journey of resilience, discovery, and healing. I’m Annie Chen, a therapist, consultant, and writer deeply invested in integrating practical insights about the nervous system to foster healthier relationships and a more connected world.
An Immigrant’s Tale
My tale begins in Guangzhou, China, in the early 1980s. I was born to a mother who endured much to bring me into this world, including a prior miscarriage and hospital bed rest in her last two trimesters. In those days in China, I was undernourished and often sick as a child. My mother said my loud cries were her only reassurance of my vitality—a trait I would use just as fiercely later on.
My family had the opportunity to immigrate to the US when I was 3 years old, and my parents made tremendous sacrifices to make it happen. On our immigration voyage, we had a layover in Japan, where I saw a blonde-haired boy that I tried to befriend. Bewildered at my attempts to talk with him in Cantonese, he hid behind his mother. Even at that age, I was trying to connect across a cultural divide.
As we settled in San Francisco’s Mission district, my parents found jobs wherever they could—garment factories, sweatshops, a fishmonger shop. Life was a patchwork of small joys and the challenges of poverty, racism, and generational trauma. Our modest one-bedroom apartment housed me, my parents, a younger brother, and two grandmothers. It was a crucible of experiences—some heartbreaking, others enriching.
From a young age, I became the de facto language translator, bureaucracy navigator, and general fixer for my family. I learned to be really competent—like my life depended on it, because with the responsibility I carried for my family, it kind of did.
At 14, my life took an unexpected turn. A full scholarship to a private school was my gateway out of poverty and to discovering what was important to me. In a class discussion, I fell silent when a classmate from a very different social class opined that sweatshop workers didn’t deserve better working conditions because they were either illegal or not smart enough to get better jobs. I’ll never forget the fury and indignation I felt for my parents. I vowed to fight for justice for those that my classmate looked down upon.
From Advocacy to Introspection
Despite a promising start in political advocacy, my early adulthood was marred by personal demons, unstable relationships, and an excess of drinking. The realization that I was fighting my own battles led me to attend my first 7-day meditation retreat in 2007—the beginning of my healing path.
This new path was not just about confronting the trauma and survival strategies ingrained since childhood, but about learning to live beyond the hustle. My healing journey took me from a meditation retreat to a year on a small ranch, where I learned to slow down and tend animals. For a year, this city girl farmed food and had a regular goat-milking chore.
Since then, I’ve immersed myself in an intensive 17-year study of the mind, nervous system, and psychology, highlighted by two master’s-level theses. I’m driven by a quest to understand how to heal not just myself but to help others find peace and connection in their lives. This journey of discovery and healing has led me to embrace therapy, spiritual practices, and being part of communities dedicated to learning and healing.
Guiding Others
The insights and healing I’ve acquired have become tools to help others. As a therapist and coach for 15 years, I’ve guided hundreds toward forging relationships they’re proud of. My first book on attachment theory marked a new chapter in my role as a helper.
Today, I stand before you not just as a professional but as a fellow traveler who has navigated the journey from trauma to peace, from isolation to connection. I’m here because I’ve learned firsthand the importance of feeling safe in one’s own body and sustaining love and friendship with those around us.
Join me on this journey towards a more connected and compassionate world, where understanding our bodies and minds unlocks a life of fulfillment and joy. Together, we can discover how to live—not just survive, but thrive in safety and be seen by those we hold dear.
Yours truly,
Press Bio
Annie Chen is an author, therapist, consultant, and coach who holds two master’s degrees in counseling and psychology. With over 17 years dedicated to studying the mind, nervous systems, and relationships, Annie has developed a unique approach to relationships and working with people. Her work integrates research from neuroscience to help clients navigate the complexities of relationships and emotional safety. Annie maintains a practice seeing individuals and couples in Berkeley, CA, and virtually. Her books, The Attachment Theory Workbook and I Want to Connect, have inspired over 100,000 people to work towards healthy relationships and promote a deeper understanding of the mind-body connection. Learn more at www.anniechen.net or follow @AnnieChenLMFT on Instagram.